One of my friends is been really tensed and confused, he found himself at a crossroads in his relationship where his wife has filed for divorce and he's struggling to let go blaming himself for the relationships track.
If any of you have stuck in the same situation where you feel why is marriage so hard then take a step back to understand where the problem gets started with your better half so that you can find a new perspective on this relationship.
When to give up on a marriage, It's really downhearted with whom you have planned everything that,
=> Want so bad in life, want to be married to this woman
=> Want to grow old, want to be a good father
But now it's the time where you have to let go of things. Just doesn't seem that this is what she wants in her life what's the core issue.
The first core issue is, how we even got together?
You have to think carefully in which situation you both got together in love connection is there any tragedy happened or any history which now becomes one of the reasons where you think to give up on your marriage.
Might be she never had a chance to just be herself, and you always questioned her if she loved you or not.
Advice: In every relationship questions and answers play an important role in, how you communicate with your life partner importantly you give space to each other.
A lot of times, it's the incompatibility between the two of you, a lot of ways are, Men always on the go mode and she wants to be at home which maybe you haven't really met her core needs of having a nest for her to stay.
A woman always wanted a nest that you didn't provide, a nest for her and maybe it's a little bit too late. You didn't listen to her, most of the time whenever she wants your help you were never there which later on become one of the main reasons that it's the time to give up on a marriage.
Do you have to let go of your marriage, can't you transform this relationship into a new form where you both still love each other. What you really have is a great friendship, right now it's not as good as it would be if you didn't have the construct of having to be a certain way.
So the question is why do you don't have to give her up you might have to instead, decide that it's gonna be a different form how often do you guys intimate, that's the glue of the relationship so all the time great sexual chemistry, but suddenly she served me with divorce papers.
Why I think she's finding herself, after all these years of being in a marriage and raising the kids, we're both working on being better persons and now I'm outright.
But now it's the time where you have to let go of things. Just doesn't seem that this is what she wants in her life what's the core issue.
The first core issue is, how we even got together?
You have to think carefully in which situation you both got together in love connection is there any tragedy happened or any history which now becomes one of the reasons where you think to give up on your marriage.
Might be she never had a chance to just be herself, and you always questioned her if she loved you or not.
Advice: In every relationship questions and answers play an important role in, how you communicate with your life partner importantly you give space to each other.
A lot of times, it's the incompatibility between the two of you, a lot of ways are, Men always on the go mode and she wants to be at home which maybe you haven't really met her core needs of having a nest for her to stay.
A woman always wanted a nest that you didn't provide, a nest for her and maybe it's a little bit too late. You didn't listen to her, most of the time whenever she wants your help you were never there which later on become one of the main reasons that it's the time to give up on a marriage.
Do you have to let go of your marriage, can't you transform this relationship into a new form where you both still love each other. What you really have is a great friendship, right now it's not as good as it would be if you didn't have the construct of having to be a certain way.
So the question is why do you don't have to give her up you might have to instead, decide that it's gonna be a different form how often do you guys intimate, that's the glue of the relationship so all the time great sexual chemistry, but suddenly she served me with divorce papers.
Why I think she's finding herself, after all these years of being in a marriage and raising the kids, we're both working on being better persons and now I'm outright.
What's holding you back in your life?
One of the key things I could say was drinking too much and that's one of the core problems when your partner thinks it's a time to give up on your marriage. Alcohol a challenge between the two of you fighting, I think that's when we had some of our worst fights when we were both drunk, it almost always for relationship because it can loosen you up.
When people get depressed
a) They get angry
b) They get sad
They tend to go through the craziest things which they never expect.
She's filed for divorce, she says
1) She still wants to have intimacy
2) She still wants to be with the family
But she doesn't want to be married to you because she's trying to find what she thinks is gonna "Fulfill Her".
Once all this situation comes where you deeply involved with her but she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore coz she wants to create her own identity, the first thought came in your mind it's the time to give up on your marriage.
She wants to love and be loved but that she's got these judgments of which she would judge herself the most intensely but just think of the level of a responsibility that she would feel for a lifetime of women.
Most men can identity, is a positive thing
=> Who the I am
=> What I'm about
=> Most men take on a primary identity
Mostly men relate to this, as your idea to expand your feel expanded how many women feel like identity...
One of the most powerful forces in the human personality the need to stay consistent with how you define yourself or explain your identity. Men identify their identity like, I am the head of the family, I'm a good husband, good dad, I'm a compassionate human being this and that...
But women on these same questions, we hit all those categories, she would judge, she would not say as like men.
When to give up on your marriage, basically it's an "identity crisis" because her entire life has been responsible or everything at everyone.
Note - What does she really want, right now not to be responsible she wants to find what will fulfill her, she feels like what will fulfil or fulfill are different than what she has because what she's had has been there so long.
Are you actually connected to what she's after if no then it's might be the reason she wants to give up on marriage?
She's pursuing another way to meet her needs because those needs were not met with you.
Another core reason is, Feels Burden
She probably got a certain amount of connection growth significance, things of that nature but she feels the burden she's not felt enough with just you, that's where you failed in this area and so you have to decide is there a way to still bring that back with her or not.
She needs her,
a) Sense of mission
b) Sense of freedom
c) Sense of life
You aren't being paid back for it you've actually out of beautiful years that you've shared together, this woman still loves you, still one-step sexy and still wants to be with your family but she doesn't want to be live with you cuz again married, to her means more responsibility.
Special Advice - If you love for as much as I believe you do, you should give her the freedom to be optimistic like I don't want to steal your freedom because it's what you would want and let her explore what she needs with the whole love. If you love someone completely you'll give her what she needs even if it hurts initially. The hurt will go away because you realize you actually need something also but you can't see it because you've been more addicted.
When people get depressed
a) They get angry
b) They get sad
They tend to go through the craziest things which they never expect.
She's filed for divorce, she says
1) She still wants to have intimacy
2) She still wants to be with the family
But she doesn't want to be married to you because she's trying to find what she thinks is gonna "Fulfill Her".
Once all this situation comes where you deeply involved with her but she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore coz she wants to create her own identity, the first thought came in your mind it's the time to give up on your marriage.
She wants to love and be loved but that she's got these judgments of which she would judge herself the most intensely but just think of the level of a responsibility that she would feel for a lifetime of women.
Most men can identity, is a positive thing
=> Who the I am
=> What I'm about
=> Most men take on a primary identity
Mostly men relate to this, as your idea to expand your feel expanded how many women feel like identity...
One of the most powerful forces in the human personality the need to stay consistent with how you define yourself or explain your identity. Men identify their identity like, I am the head of the family, I'm a good husband, good dad, I'm a compassionate human being this and that...
But women on these same questions, we hit all those categories, she would judge, she would not say as like men.
When to give up on your marriage, basically it's an "identity crisis" because her entire life has been responsible or everything at everyone.
Note - What does she really want, right now not to be responsible she wants to find what will fulfill her, she feels like what will fulfil or fulfill are different than what she has because what she's had has been there so long.
Are you actually connected to what she's after if no then it's might be the reason she wants to give up on marriage?
She's pursuing another way to meet her needs because those needs were not met with you.
Another core reason is, Feels Burden
She probably got a certain amount of connection growth significance, things of that nature but she feels the burden she's not felt enough with just you, that's where you failed in this area and so you have to decide is there a way to still bring that back with her or not.
She needs her,
a) Sense of mission
b) Sense of freedom
c) Sense of life
You aren't being paid back for it you've actually out of beautiful years that you've shared together, this woman still loves you, still one-step sexy and still wants to be with your family but she doesn't want to be live with you cuz again married, to her means more responsibility.
Special Advice - If you love for as much as I believe you do, you should give her the freedom to be optimistic like I don't want to steal your freedom because it's what you would want and let her explore what she needs with the whole love. If you love someone completely you'll give her what she needs even if it hurts initially. The hurt will go away because you realize you actually need something also but you can't see it because you've been more addicted.
I hope this will help you when to give up on your marriage or how you can understand your partner's wants, for any marriage advice do comment at Games in Love, and share it with those who need it more than you.
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